Before I started living on my own in the city, my family lived in the suburbs way out in Abbotsford. Every weekend after finishing classes at SFU, I would bus home to see my family and my girlfriend now wife for the weekend. This was early on in my dating relationship so as you can probably guess, it was important for me to see her. My parents especially my mom didn't think it was necessary to spend all that time commuting back and should allocate my time with my studies. Of course I didn't see her point. There was one time when my parents were taking me back to burnaby, they or more so my mom asked me not to come back to Abbotsford anymore. My first thought was abandonment. Why would they not want me to come back and why such as rash decision. My second thought was that I could no longer see my girlfriend. I was infuriated. I did not know what to think or say, so I left my parents car abruptly and stormed into my apartment. Later on the week, my mom phoned me, but I refused to speak to her. I asked to speak to my dad instead. This was not a good move on my part. I've always been closer to my mom than my dad so this most likely stung when she heard what I said. It was only after a few days that I called back to apologize.

I understood that my anger was probably justified as no one likes to hear that they're not welcome back home anymore although this was probably not what my mom meant. My actions and words, however, were disrespectful because no parent wants to hear that their child does not want to speak to them. What I really wanted was my mom to understand that my relationship was serious but in my anger I did not consider her feelings because it was my first and only relationship and she was still trying to cope with it. In addition to my apology so long ago, I also make sure to spend time with my mom so that she still feels validated as a mom. I do not of course want to repeat this offence because it is disrespectful and does not model good role model behaviour when I am to become a parent one day.